The end of July marks the 6 month anniversary of www.revisionistretirement.com, by Barclay and Joy. We thought seeing as this is a special milestone (well, it’s not a year or a 5 year, but it is indeed special to us), it was time to celebrate!
We started out with an idea that two lifelong friends adapting to retirement had a lot to say! We needed an outlet, a cathartic way of getting our thoughts out of our heads and into print.
It’s been great to get to know someone that I’ve known for 37 years even better. We now have a personal call once a week to catch up and a business call to discuss our blog.
“So what do you do?”
When you’re retired, people ask you this all the time.
The voice of my mother echoes, “Seriously, Barclay, what DO you do all day? And at day’s end what exactly have you DONE?”
My life used to be structured (and identified) by raising kids, performing at a job, managing a home. I was ruled by the alarm clock and the family calendar.
Then, bam… Jared and Alex embarked on their own journeys. My work life ended. The alarm clock was bored. The word, retirement, sounded like an abrupt end. I was grateful but uneasy.
Then came Joy.
Joy and I go back some 40 years. Joy is one of those people who treasures friendships — you can pick up right where you left off even if you haven’t spoken in months. She’ll make you laugh until it hurts.
Now Joy and I speak every week. We are among the throngs of Baby Boomers – retiring at a rate of 10,000 per day – some of whom have fallen prey to depression, anxiety, over-rumination. For Joy and me, talking and writing about these pitfalls has been vital – hence the blog idea. Retirement being revised. A time of opportunity and growth. Yes, you CAN teach old dogs new tricks!
Joy’s daughters, Morgan and Dana, have been key to the birth of this blog. Morgan came up with the name and occasionally acts as editor; Dana has helped with many an IT issue. Both have been sounding boards – ever so patient – which must be a tad challenging. Old dogs can learn but not at a millennial rate!
So far, RR has addressed everything from crepe skin to death. Overarching themes include –
Aging – Those lovely surprises your mirror announces. And the mental jolt you get each birthday or when the movie cashier doesn’t even blink when you request a “senior discount”.
The Past – We all have baggage and Jane Fonda suggests that the Third Act is high time for forgiveness and peace.
Passion and Purpose – Finding your sweet spot of service. Making a difference even if it’s just smiling more, over-tipping, giving someone a sincere, over the top compliment.
Loneliness, Marriage, Volunteering, Friendship, Learning, Travel, Mindfulness, Staying Active, Forgetfulness, Parenting adult children.
And lest we forget, Muriel and Peggy have snuck into many a post.
So here’s a new blog post title – You Never Know!
Neither Joy nor I could EVER have anticipated this blogging adventure. We invite you to join us and discover your own revisionist retirement!
Together we’ll find a cure for crepe skin and arm flab — or at least be able to laugh at all things jiggly!
Don’t underestimate us! We both think (maybe in our own delusional minds!) that a Lifetime movie can’t be far behind! You want to be able to say, I read their blog from the beginning and knew it was special!!! Don’t miss out on this opportunity! I will be played by Julia Roberts (my mouth is the same size as hers and she has large teeth!) Barclay will be played by Diane Lane. Sexy at any age!
Above all else keep reading our blog-http://www.revisionistretirement.com
Enjoy the Ride and Raise a Glass!
Barclay and Joy