I have been thinking a lot (to borrow Maria Shriver’s beginning sentence leading into her wonderful Sunday post-mariashriver.com/sundaypaper) Retirement gives us the time to daydream, to muse, to preoccupy our minds with small things as well as big philosophical questions. When working I didn’t have the time to let my mind wander. Time is money when you are in sales. You need to be disciplined, focused, fixated on your goals and how you are going to attain them. This thinking time can get us into trouble, but it can also help us put things into perspective.
I got to thinking about possessions, what I want, what I need at this stage of life. I don’t need a lot. Who’s going to see my new designer blouse? The check out girl at the supermarket? True, we do things for ourselves, but at the end of the day, didn’t I always like the office compliment, the bathroom banter over my new shoes, haircut, lip gloss Who notices now?
The key is to do all the materialistic things that make you happy when you have a paycheck! Buy that high end moisturizer on a whim! Go to the best sushi restaurant on someone else’s expense account (I never looked at prices until I retired! Dining out in a major city is expensive when it comes out of your own pocket!)
When I think about it, I don’t need blingy jewelry (I spend the winter in Mexico so take off all my jewelry before I go-no reason to broadcast it.) I don’t need designer clothes or even a fancy car. We are living in the land of SUVs and not ones with prestige brands.
It all goes back to living a simple life, one in which waking up in the morning, hearing nothing but the sounds of the country is bringing me a new sense of who I am unadorned, unadulterated, and understated. Maybe I could do with a little eyeliner! You never know who might be scouting for retired publishers in Columbia County!
Somewhere, there’s a happy medium of figuring out who you are without the trappings. I do know that I don’t need stuff to make me happy anymore and that yoga pants and a tee shirt are my outfit of choice! The beauty of not needing more is that it saves a lot of time surfing the internet for things that I’ll never wear.
In the words of my favorite realtor in Westchester, less is more!
In the words of my colorist (of course I don’t have any gray!) if you don’t like the way you planned things, change it! The only rules you have now are your own.
Daily Simplicity: 13 Habits That Will Make Your Life Lighter and Happier
May 2, 2018 – “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”. … One simple reason and one of the most important ones for me is that simplicity reduces the heaviness in life. …
. Reassess everything that made you the person you were for all these years. Pare down, get back to basics and remember we all go out the same way we came in!
Enjoy the Ride
xox Barclay and Joy