It can sneak up on you. Especially if your self-image has centered around your career. Especially if you don’t have an established routine. Especially if your mind has time on its hands.
You used to have that go-to identity. I am a _____.
Now when asked what you do, there’s a caveat. I used to be a _______ . Or I am a retired-_________.
Then there’s the auspicious question, So now that you’re retired, what do you do all day??
Self-doubt can creep in, especially after the euphoria passes. And with that self-doubt, depression can make a surprise appearance. You may feel that no one can relate. After all, you are the lucky one.
It may be a case of expectations being derailed. This is supposed to be the best time of your life. The time you’ve saved for, planned for. Upon its arrival, you’ve traveled, you’ve mastered the strudel recipe, you’ve taken the dancing class. Now too much leisure coupled with too little structure leaves an emptiness not anticipated.
You are not alone.
According to the London-based Institute of Economic Affairs, “The likelihood that someone will suffer from clinical depression actually goes up by about 40% after retiring.” Work-life has provided the ingredients to life satisfaction — social connections, a steady routine and a sense of purpose. When work is taken away – even by design and desire, depression can ensue.
So what to do?
Investopedia cites 6 ways to overcome depression in retirement.
Staying in shape. Being social. Developing a schedule. Giving back. And maybe hitting the classroom or finding part-time work.
The bottom line, they say, is to get a plan.
If the depression becomes too much to handle, this plan may involve medication, talk therapy, or a combination of both. And that’s not something to be embarrassed about.
So be aware that an abundance of leisure has to be balanced with purpose and routine — a plan to be occupied mentally, physically, and spiritually.
Eleanor Roosevelt said, “It takes as much time to worry as it does to plan.”
What’s my plan?
First, when I feel anxiety creeping in, I do SOMEthing productive and tangible — cleaning a bathroom, getting on the elliptical, taking Codie for a walk, calling a friend. Then I make sure my calendar has a pre-planned activity each day — this, alongside exercise, Bible reading, the occasional book club, the strategic getaway – and usually depression/anxiety is held at bay .
When someone asks, “What do you do all day?” I can say, “I’m enjoying my one an only life!”
Today’s Takeaway –
-Depression is sneaky. And it’s the last thing you expect during this long awaited time of freedom from traditional work. Don’t be surprised by its appearance.
– Seek help if needed. You are not alone.
-Codie thinks that you should definitely get a pet – preferably, a golden retriever. Codie is a therapist on the side.
Enjoy the ride!
xox Barclay and Joy