What do you say to someone you haven’t seen since you were 7 years old?!! It’s a mind blowing experience and one I had to share.
In one of my many unaccounted for retirement moments, I was thinking of people who have come and gone in my life. Names from the past, childhood, in particular. I had two very close friends in elementary school, one who I have been friends with since kindergarten (with a hiatus of about twenty years, but that’s a post for another day) and another who I met at about the same time. Friend #2 moved away at the end of 2nd grade and we lost touch. I put in her maiden name, not knowing if she was married or divorced or never having been married. A gap of this much time means you missed out on her growing up, graduating from junior high school, high school, a first boyfriend, the prom, applying to college, getting married, a first job, a career, having children, the list goes on.
Is it curiosity, getting older and wanting to connect with people from our past or the fact that FB allows us to be super sleuths? The ability to find just about anyone from our past exists. When you find someone who was a best friend, no matter what age you are, it’s a gift. It’s a renewal of something you once shared that only the two of you remember.
Ironically, my friend has a sister who has a weekend house less that an hour and a half away from where I live. What are the chances? So, last weekend we made a plan to meet at a local restaurant for a glass of wine. She would be with her husband and I would be with mine. I walked into the restaurant and a big broad smile came over her face. I recognized her immediately and she me, though we hadn’t seen each other in over 50 years!!!! The face of the child I knew was still there. It brought a flood of emotion to us both and we knew this was going to be a night of reminiscences, laughing and scratching the surface of two lives reconnecting.
At this phase of life friendships are more important than ever. We have the time to see people that we may not have had while raising families. If someone has been lost along the way, reach out. FB and other social media make things possible and it’s an amazing tool that I still marvel at. (no matter how lame that sounds!)
There is no time like now to reach out and make someone’s day. If you’ve lost a friendship over the years, take a chance and try connecting. The memories you shared are still there and it can be so worth the effort.
Barclay and her husband just visited us in upstate New York and I am still smiling. It was an opportunity for our husbands to get to know one another and we could commiserate in person over our still unfigured out state of retirement!
Enjoy the ride
xox Barclay and Joy