This is an addendum to the post of several weeks ago about reconnecting through social media.
Mrs. Grossman was one of my favorite teachers of all time. All us girls at P.S. 165 (shout out to the upper west side before it was hip and cool!) She was 21 at the time and we were her second teaching job ever! (just learned this recently) She was pretty and when you think about it not even a full generation removed from us 7 year old girls!
My friend Paula wanted more than anything to reconnect with Mrs. Grossman and she made it her business to find this woman. Eureka!! Through the skill of Scott, Paula’s husband he found a phone number and hoped this was the right woman. Last night Paula had a 2 hour phone conversation with her that was filled with tears of happiness and nostalgia. The only reason it didn’t go on longer was that Mrs. Grossman’s phone died!
Just as I had said in my previous post, how does one catch up on a hiatus of over 50 years?! The answer is you can’t. You don’t. You ask about children, parents, births, marriages, deaths, health. You let the person know you have thought about them and how much they influenced your life. Paula actually became a teacher because of 2 people that deeply influenced her. One was Mrs. Grossman. How must that feel to tell someone that they chose their career path because you were a role model.
Mrs. Grossman was so touched and flattered. She mentioned names of other students from our class that she had recalled and asked if Paula had kept in touch with anyone. Of course, our own story of reconnection was told.
It brought back for both Paula and me a time of innocence and simplicity. It made us both happy to talk about the effect this one gesture, a phone call had on the life of a woman who we still remembered.
One person can have a dramatic effect on another human being. In Paula’s case she saw Mrs. Grossman as the teacher she might be one day.
My dear blogging partner, Barclay, became a wonderful reading specialist. Not sure who her influence might have been or even if there was one. I have no doubt she was nurturing and passionate in her career leaving an indelible impression on many young children.
-People are effected and influenced differently. We all have the ability to shape an opinion, an impression and shouldn’t diminish what we bring into this world.
-Lest I get too serious and philosophical, I have included my (and Paula’s) 2nd grade class picture which features my Mamie Eisenhower bangs! Who knows, perhaps skirts with straps will make a comeback and pixie haircuts with Mamie bangs! They tell me fashion is cyclical!
Enjoy the ride
xox Barclay & Joy