Yes, I am a Nurturer, but so much more

I am a junkie when it comes to awards shows, so of course I watched The Golden Globes on Sunday night. I confess.  I watch them all, The Oscars, The Golden Globes, The Emmy’s, The Grammy’s.   I love to see who wins, who loses, the gowns, the jewels, who has had good plastic surgery, who looks Asian because their eye lift went awry, etc. etc.  I should have been in the business, but I digress …

The speech that really spurred this post and that made me applaud inside my body was that of Glenn Close. She won for the  role of the woman behind the man. In this case, a Nobel Prize winner in literature who we find out is really not the writer he has pretended to be .  “The Wife” took 16 years to make and, boy, was its timing perfect!  We don’t hide behind anybody anymore! Always a favorite actress of mine, not typical Hollywood, but talented, poised, classy, whether on the stage, movies, or television. Her haunting portrayal of Norma Desmond in Sunset Boulevard (so lucky to have seen on Broadway), her creepy role as the spurned lover in Fatal Attraction,  and her transformative role as a man in Albert Nobbs.  (many many other incredible roles make this woman a force to be reckoned with even at 71!)



She spoke of our role in life, we women, as nurturers, moms, wives, but the fact that we need more. She used the word “sublimated” in referring to her own mother and her role behind her father, feeling as though she never accomplished anything meaningful.  My own mother was a behind the scene gal, who I have no doubt would have flourished in a different era.  Born at the wrong time.  A product of the 1950’s and the Donna Read culture. She never even thought about what would fulfill her as a person. She was an extension of my father and never came into her own as an individual.

My own children are my shining lights, my everything and I would go to the ends of the earth to see them happy and on the right life path.  With my career behind me though, I need more, I want more, I have the energy for more. The speech resonated with many and social media went wild in capturing tears flowing from Glenn’s eyes.  A sincere, heartfelt  acceptance that brought the audience to its feet in a standing ovation.

We women are incredible, my friends who have led similar lives as me, many being the chief bread winner in their family, need to not close the chapter at the end of the work routine, but find new meaning in who they are now. You don’t work for 42 years and stop cold turkey and expect to be okay!  I felt inspired listening to Glenn Close and it revved up my engines.  I’m not done by any stretch of the imagination!  Look out world, 2019 I make my comeback! Watch this space as I launch version 2.0.

Today’s Takeaway-

. Rewrite the rules that are important to you.  Don’t listen to anybody else, but your own inner voice who says, keep moving. (in Barclay’s and Peggy’s words before her)

. Never underestimate a woman.  With your support, dear reader, Barclay and I will take this little blog to Hollywood and Glenn Close will be watching us accept our golden statue one day!

DREAM BIG! What have you got to lose?!

Enjoy the Ride

xox Barclay and Joy







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