Sometimes we feel stuck.
This can be particularly true in retirement, when our 9 to 5 work, with its built-in sense of purpose, is behind us.
We may wake up and wonder, “What is my purpose today?”
Yoga classes and lunch dates do not a purpose-filled life make. And that to-do list may vacillate between over busy-ness that has us frazzled and boredom that has us opening the refrigerator door way too often.
How to get unstuck?
The self-help books have many good and practical suggestions.
But what if we are too overwhelmed to make a gratitude list, or take a walk, or even say a prayer?
Look no farther than the bathroom. There lies a toilet.
The seemingly insignificant act of cleaning a toilet can offer a sense of accomplishment, albeit small. And this toilet-time may just propel us to do a push-up, make a phone call, or name something we are grateful for.
James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, advocates starting small – doing something eminently doable that guarantees success and evokes healthy habits. He tells the story of one man who “resets his room” —
“When he finishes watching television, he places the remote back on the TV stand, arranges the pillows on the couch, and folds the blanket. When he leaves his car, he throws any trash away. Whenever he takes a shower, he wipes down the toilet while the shower is warming up.
This might sound like he’s just “cleaning up” but there is a key insight that makes his approach different. The purpose of resetting each room is not simply to clean up after the last action, but to prepare for the next action.”
So, feeling stuck? Unmotivated? Overwhelmed? Start small. Grab that clorox and clean a toilet.
This may not be the day you write a novel, complete a marathon, or even vacuum up the dog hair that’s rolling like sage brush across your rugs – but hey, you will will have a clean toilet! And that’s something!
Today’s Takeaway –
-Think small. And do SOMEthing. Don’t answer the refrigerator when it beckons you.
-Play loud, joy-filled music during your toilet-time. Why not?
-Codie is chiding me now. Get off your butt and take me for a walk. She is right. And Codie never feels stuck!
Enjoy the ride!
xox Barclay and Joy