It may sound funny or macabre or morose, but I mean it! Being retired gives you a lot of time to think, to reflect, to ponder, wonder, question. Do it while your mind is awake, alive, inquisitive. My cheerful topic was prompted by a text I received this weekend from a very close friend of mine regarding her dad.
Her dad at a very advanced age of 94 has decided he is ready to die. There is no disease, per se, like cancer or Parkinson’s or the many other maladies that one might succumb to in these final years. He is tired, frail, short of breath, not feeling the way he might have last year at 93. We can fix so many things through treatments, organ replacements, medication, until we get to a certain point in life where the options don’t provide the same results. It struck me, knowing this man for over 50 years, as a thoughtful, well analyzed decision. This is not someone who feels sorry for himself or is depressed. He has lived a long full life. At 94, what more can you say? If this is someone’s wish and they are of sound mind, then we as family members should honor it and respect what it took to get the person to that point. It’s a tough one for sure and there will be many followers who will not agree with me.
He is one of the lucky ones, not suffering, not bed ridden, not in a memory care facility unable to remember his daughter’s face or name. With so many of my friend’s parents living into their 90’s, an age most never would have expected to see, it is something to give thought to. We are all individuals and life is precious, every breath, every morning that we wake up, but why can’t we decide on our own destiny if we choose? Go out on your own terms according to your own plans. We will all die of something someday, just a question of when.
I saw a post this morning that made me laugh:
Welcome to your 60’s!
If you don’t already have a mysterious ailment, one will be assigned to you shortly.
Health is truly a gift. Everyday you wake up without a body pain or ache, is wonderful! Treasure it. Never ever think it’s trite to say- “When you have your health, you have everything”
Oh, and did you know you can buy a coffin on eBay? I wonder if they’re new or used?!!!
Spend your children’s inheritance! Hopefully, they’ll make their own money!
Enjoy the ride
xox Barclay & Joy