Oh My God, I Left My Baby on The Bus!!!!!!

Okay, seriously, I was and still am that person who forgets everything!!!

I like to think it’s because I am distracted easily and have many thoughts going through my brain at the same time. (We brilliant folks do!  It’s a cross we must bare!)  I probably have ADD, though I’ve never been tested, but ask my children or husband and they will say, without a doubt!

Last week I was carrying around my knapsack with me and didn’t realize I had left it somewhere until 2 days later. I was looking for something and remembered I had placed it in the knapsack.  Luckily, I could retrace my steps and fortunately, I didn’t have a wallet or passport inside it, but nevertheless, I had to return sheepishly to the doctor’s office my husband and I had been sitting in 2 days earlier.  The receptionist came out with the knapsack and said, “We didn’t know who it belonged to!”  It didn’t have my identification in it since there was no wallet.  Phew!

It is the worst feeling in the world to lose things.  I should know since I’ve been doing it all my life!

When my 1st child was born, my husband bought me a tee shirt that said “Oh My God, I Left My Baby on The Bus!”  This was amusing, to be sure, but could I actually do that, be so absent minded as to leave a living breathing person on public transportation and not realize it until I got off??!!  Thank God, it never happened.  Maybe, I didn’t take enough buses at the time!!  A story just appeared this morning though in Newsweek with a mom leaving her baby on the plane, so I am in good company!  Check it out!

I was the kid who came home from school without her books so that when it came time to do my homework, OOPS!  One time I left an entire duffel bag and had to explain to my teacher that I couldn’t do my homework because I didn’t have my assignment or my notebook!  Really, JOY!!!  REALLY!!   I guess once forgetful, always forgetful because I have carried this trait throughout life. My mother always said to me, “If your head wasn’t screwed onto your body, you’d forget that too!”  Thanks mom.

The good news is I never did lose the baby, not the 1st one or the 2nd one.  I remember my dog, my husband, and for the most part important things.  Keys, sunglasses, and a shopping bag are a whole different story!

Today’s Takeaway:

. Focus, concentrate, try your level best to be aware of what you are carrying.  If you are like me, (I pray you are not!) know your shortfall and be extra careful when something is in your possession.

. If that’s my worst flaw, so be it.  Learn to laugh off the small stuff.  Material possessions can always be replaced, humans a bit harder!!


Enjoy the Ride!


xox Barclay & Joy




When You Find Your Phone in the Refrigerator

And you have zero recollection of putting it there.  You are tempted to blame your husband.  But on the other hand, there is NO way he should ever know about this.  

Nor should he know about the times you wonder where your cell phone is — while you’re talking on said phone to your sister.

Or  the times you stroll down the basement stairs – only to reach the bottom and wonder what the hell you’re doing there.  

Or when you read an entire first chapter, thinking it familiar, only to realize you already read the book.  Not that long ago.

First, don’t panic.  (And don’t ever read the book or see the movie, Still Alice!)  Unless the ketchup routinely ends up in your purse — chances are, this forgetfulness is normal for us baby boomers with our cluttered brains and overtime ruminations.

It is normal to have to go through the mental alphabet to recall a name.  Or to search for the vocabulary word that encapsulates a concept – the one that annoyingly pops into your mind that very night at 4AM taunting you with its easy access- daring you to go back to sleep.

But do we have to accept this new-normal — where the ketchup bottle goes missing?   

Psychology Today cites 8 habits that improve cognitive function:  

Physical Activity

Openness to Experience

Curiosity and Creativity

Social Connections

Mindfulness Meditation

Brain Training Games

Get Enough Sleep

Reduce Chronic Stress 



Today’s Takeaway  gets a little more practical –


  • What if you’re embarrassingly awful at crossword puzzles and you’ve never actually finished a Suduko?  Find a daily mental exercise that suits you.  My dad used to recite the American presidents chronologically – forwards and backwards.



  • Dictate to  your phone (which hopefully isn’t in the fridge keeping the veggies company) the names, words, songs you tend to forget.  Just knowing you have ready access to them will solidify their recall and give you peace.



  • Beware of the Bachelorette.  Especially the one in paradise.  Such guilty pleasures (which I, Barclay, indulge in) do not do your brain a service.  Temper your TV binges with audio books, actual books, newspapers, documentaries.  Join a book club.  Hopefully, one that drinks.



So, do not panic, my baby boomer friends, when the tip of your tongue betrays you.  

After your read this, however, you may want to check the refrigerator shelves for wayward phones and keys.

And then just chuckle.


Enjoy the ride!

xox,  Barclay and Joy