There is nothing better than a wonderful phone conversation with a girl friend. Female friendship is unique. It truly is. Guys bond differently than women do, They sit and watch sports, play cards, do side by side activities. Women engage. When we get on the phone we better have at least an hour to gab. If you haven’t spoken to a particular friend for a while, it will have to cover a broad array of topics. Lots happens in the course of life! Even in retirement! Maybe, more so in retirement!
With no office environment any longer, no kvetching over coffee or the water cooler, you need to reach out and make the interactions happen. A great female to female conversation is cathartic and a lot cheaper than going to a therapist! Your close friends will not judge you, your really close friends will listen to whatever it is on your mind and offer advice, suggestions, recommendations. They are wonderful to bounce ideas off of. They know your moods and will probe further to see what’s on your mind, why you’re feeling blue, sad, or dissatisfied.
I am so lucky to have the friends I do, many of them lifetime friends of 50 years or more, 1 even longer than that! Childhood friends, junior high school friends, college friends, work friends and now my Mexico amigas and amigos! If you’re reading this post, you know who you are and what you mean to me. I cherish all of you and feel very lucky to count you as friends.
During these last 2 1/2 years of retirement, I have leaned on my friendships to get me through a rocky start, not knowing where I belonged anymore. My friends listened and one in particular became my blogging partner. To you, dear Barclay, I owe you countless hours back of your time and my gratitude for being my kindred spirit. We have learned things about each other in writing this blog (almost 1 /12 years now with 126 posts and counting!) that we never knew. I promise I will go to my grave before I divulge anything!
Many articles have been written on this subject. No one will disagree that female bonding is powerful and important. It helps to make for a well rounded and happy life. Women are truly each other’s emotional support system. A husband has his place for sure, but he is not a substitute for a close female friend.
So, pick up the phone and call a female friend! She’ll be glad you called and you will be cementing a bond that needs continual care.
Just like a plant, our friendships need to be nurtured.
. Good female friends let you be your authentic self. They are important no matter what age you are. They fulfill your emotional needs and love you for just who you are.
. Don’t underestimate your need for them in retirement. In some respects, their support is more important than ever.
Enjoy the Ride
xox Barclay & Joy