I (Joy) can hear my mother’s voice utter the phrase above. She must have said it a million times. The words of someone’s mother when you are young and know more than they do, is meaningless. I now understand what she meant. It’s only taken me a lifetime to figure it out!
We can always look back, conjecture as to how something might have turned out differently. We second guess ourselves, doubt our choices, hesitate to move forward beyond what’s comfortable. We are creatures of habit and even though we might protest and complain, that is the way most of us like it.
Me, being a true Cancer, astrologically speaking, cling to life the way it has been. I want to hold on to the special memories that made me smile, gave me pleasure, solace.
My father on the other hand was just the opposite. He was a crepe hanger, a Dr. Doom before Nouriel Roubini! He was the chicken little the sky is falling to my mother’s passivity. He panicked and sold all his stocks the day President Kennedy was assassinated, saw the world on the verge of nuclear annihilation. Truly, it is a wonder that I am halfway normal!
I am trying in this new chapter of life to not think “woulda, coulda, shoulda,” to not think disaster, but to take one day at a time. I am not the person who embraces the unknown with open arms; I never will be. I hate roller coasters and am a dud at an amusement park. I am me and if it takes me a little longer to get the hang of this new state, that’s okay. There is no race, no time clock. It’s getting your head and emotions to be on the same page and to accept, “Wow, I made it this far, now enjoy!”
. Don’t dwell on things you have no control over. It’s a waste of time. As my compadre Barclay says, move forward, physically, mentally, and spiritually.
. You indeed are a product of your upbringing, but can make changes to the person you are and have been until you breathe that last breath. How wonderful is that!
Enjoy the ride!
x0x Barclay and Joy