I recently had dinner with Sandra (pseudonym), a woman who personifies love and joy. And not the Pollyanna kind. Over her 60 plus years, Sandra has battled cancer more than once, heart disease, brain surgery, and broken bones. She’s the mother of two boys with special needs, now approaching their 20s, her constant companions..
But despite her challenges, Sandra is always on the lookout for others in need. She smiles a lot and basically, shows off God. “Tell me about your life,” she says. “How can I pray for you?”
During dinner Sandra brought out her ring of Bible verses on Love which she and her sons are memorizing – Verses for Purses.
Her son, Mike, with hand signals and guidance from his mom, quoted the first verse on the ring — Romans 12:10 – “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Mike returned to his video game and Sandra beamed with pride.
Later that night, sitting in my car, I reached for the keys. Wouldn’t you know it – Sandra being Sandra – had slipped her Purse-Verse ring into MY purse! I smiled all the way home marveling at this woman who honors others above herself. (She also enjoys wine and a good joke, by the way — lest you think her too angelic!)
So how to be more like Sandra, a Baby Boomer who is relishing her life even in the midst of weighty challenges?
Back to Verses for Purses. Be devoted to one another in love.
But to be devoted to one another, we may need to love ourselves first. And that takes intentionality. Best selling author, Louise Hay, has written a book called Mirror Work which entails a 21 day program for learning to love yourself better – without slipping into narcissism. One reviewer writes,
“Our experience of life mirrors our relationship with ourselves; unless we see ourselves as lovable, the world can be a dark and lonely place. Mirror work—looking at oneself in a mirror and repeating positive affirmations—is Louise’s powerful method for learning to love oneself and experience the world as a safe and loving place.”
OK, apologies to Ms. Hay, but I will not be looking in a mirror and saying affirmations (a la Stuart Smiley on SNL). However, I will give myself the occasional talking-to, especially on Valentines Day.
I am a child of God. I am dearly loved. I am also a work in progress! And today, I will smile more, love more, live better – because the days are short and life is a precious gift.
And I will also look for someone else’s purse to drop a verse ring into. (I ordered an Amazon shipment!) So when we’re together, if you’d rather not find a surprise the next day, may I suggest you keep your purse on your lap!
Today’s Takeaway –
Happy Valentines Day, Loved Ones!!
Enjoy the ride
xox Barclay and Joy