De-Friend your Scale and Boost your Metabolism

My scale and I go way back.  You might say we have a love-hate relationship.  In fact, my scale is a bit of a narcissist – demanding center stage in my mind where it wields more power than it should.

It’s fond of reminiscing about the previous day’s consumption.

Nuts, yeah they’re healthy, but probably not when you eat 5000 calories of cashews.  And speaking of calories, wine has more than you think. 

It’s time to de-friend this time guzzling device.  But first –  a word about our changing metabolism.

Yesterday a woman at my hair salon  lamented, “Once I turned 50, it seems I gain weight after just two bites of cake.” She’s right.  According to Women’s Health“Our metabolism takes a nosedive over the years.”

In our 20s, our metabolism peaks.  We burn the maximum amount of calories just by being alive.  In our 30s, muscle mass reduces and our metabolic rate drops. By the time we’re in our 50s and 60s, our hormones are depleted and we need to reduce our caloric intake substantially just to maintain our weight.

That scale gleefully reminds us Boomers that we are not in our 20s anymore. Or 30s. Or 40s. Or 50s.  Thank you so much.

But there’s a silver lining.

We don’t have to run a marathon or swim a mile, or even jump rope.  We can give our metabolism a kickstart by building muscle through strength training.

Women’s Health says, “Building Muscle is Non-Negotiable!   People who lift weights put on less belly fat as they age than cardio bunnies. Strength training gives your metabolism the biggest boost after your workout ends.  A woman who was sedentary in her twenties and thirties can actually have a higher metabolic rate in her forties if she exercises.”

OK, a personal trainer is expensive.  And so is a membership to a gym where we may not darken the door.

How about trying this 15-min workout?  All you need is a couple of 3-10 pound weights.

In addition to trying this workout,  I’m going to give my scale a talking-to.

Hey Scale,

You are not even in the Friend Zone.

You are free to date other people.

 

Today’s Takeaway –

-Let’s skip the scale and be nicer to ourselves.

-Let’s dust off the dumbbells and try for 15 min a day while watching Good Morning, America.  Our bodies will thank us. Plus, we get to drink more wine!

Enjoy the ride!

xox Barclay and Joy

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Can We Tawk?! WARNING: This post contains content that may be unsuitable for our immediate relatives, members of the opposite sex, and the more *ahem* puritanical.

Take a seat, because this is going to be an honest and frank discussion about a topic that doesn’t typically get the attention it deserves – not for our demographic at least. But this is 2018, and we’ve prided ourselves on being modern women all our adult lives – let’s buck up and be honest!

If you’re squeamish about women’s sexuality and sexual health (and let’s face it, many sadly are) proceed with caution.

Here we go…

There are some developments  Down There which become hard to ignore once you hit a certain age.

Down There may become a desert. That is, unless a laugh or sneeze causes an unwelcome squirt from not-the-right source.

Down There may turn on you and cruelly become a source of discomfort versus pleasure.

Down There may taunt you, saying “Use it or Lose it!” Yet who wants to use it if ones skin is akin to tissue paper and ones libido is gone with the wind. (And speaking of wind, let’s just say our control isn’t what it used to be.)

After all, IT is a muscle that needs to be flexed, exercised. We thought it would last forever! Why didn’t anyone tell us?!! We would have used it more at an earlier age! Wherefore art thou, Oprah? You helped us through menopause – now what about our post 60 sex lives?

Men have long had Viagra. But options for extending female sexual longevity are limited, to say the least. In the case where options exist, information is scarce, lacking in scientific evidence and largely inaccessible. Despite taboo, existing research has found that sexual activity in older age is strongly associated with improved mental health and overall wellbeing. (J. DeLamater, E. Koepsel. Relationships and sexual expression in later life: A biopsychosocial perspective. 2015; 3759.) Making the case for this important aspect of self care!

Thanks to modern medicine, we’ve been bestowed with the gift of “cosmetic gynecology”. You may be familiar with the euphemism, “vaginal rejuvenation”. If you think about it, one can lift droopy eyelids, sagging turkey necks, and cheeks on both your face – and your behind – so why not other parts of the female anatomy?  As it turns out, whatever you want rejuvenated can be! Like Miss Clairol used to say, “Only your hairdresser knows for sure…” Now your gynecologist knows too!

We’re all for doing what we can to improve ourselves – with the caveat that it’s not just about aesthetics. Many women experience pain with sex due to a variety of reasons, some of which can be treated with a simple surgical procedure. And an important side note – inner beauty is key… many past RR posts have echoed that. However, if it makes you feel better, inside or out, then we say –  get over the embarrassment, squelch the giggles, and go for that rejuvenated whatever!

One such procedure is the Mona Lisa. Click her innocent face below to find out more. Maybe Mona will share the secret behind that sly smile of hers!

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The website touts pictures of happy Baby Boomers who seem to have sparky and uncomplicated sex lives.  5 Things Nobody Tells You About Sex After 60 | Prevention
https://www.prevention.com/sex/g20432982/sex-after-60/

So did our coy ML have her namesake procedure? Only her gynecologist knows for sure!

We have to admit, she looks quite content!

Today’s Takeaway:

– See someone you can talk to, who is trained in Down There. There is very limited info out there on the safety and efficacy of  these treatments – so do your due diligence! Dr. Adam Ostrzenski is credited with discovering the G-spot, so our money is on him… Funny, we could have sworn it was discovered by a woman!

–  If Oprah isn’t chiming in, then we Baby Boomers should start being transparent about what’s happening and what’s not. Our health – even our sexual health – matters!

Be on the lookout for more Can We Tawk? posts!

Muriel and Peggy, you can come back now.  

Enjoy the ride!

xox Barclay and Joy